Attn: Women! Need more lust in your life? There's a pill for that, too
Friday, May 31, 2013 by: Mike Bundrant
(NaturalNews) Big pharma is reaching into your lust life - or lack thereof - with Lybrido.
Touted as the female Viagra, Lybrido aims to chemically arouse women who 'lack lust,' breaking through their resistance or malaise toward sex. Lybrido is currently in clinical trial, with hundreds of women donating their body to research.
Of course, you can't justify a pharmaceutical without a disease. In the case of Lybrido, it's Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder, otherwise known as, "I have a headache again, dear."
Lybrido is shooting for FDA approval by 2016. Millions of men are praying the FDA throws them a bone with this one.
Another pill, another pile of dirt swept under the rug
What's the dirt in this case? Decades of clinical experience among counselors and coaches who have a clue suggest that it is resentment that plagues women who lose their sexual desire toward their mate.
Interestingly, this experience is backed by a logical deduction from a particular research anomaly. Research suggests that, while men tend to maintain their sexual desire in marriage, monogamous women steadily lose that desire, with the exception of women who do not live with their husbands.
This insight comes from Dietrich Klusmann, a psychologist at the University of Hamburg-Eppendorf in Germany. Klusmann shows that both women and men in new relationships show equal lust for each other. Women who've been with their partners between one and four years, however, begin to lose their desire compared to men. Yet, women who don't live with their partners retain their desire much more than women who do.
In other words, women who do not deal with the day-in-day-out grind of being in a relationship fare much better sexually.
Shall we all just separate, then?
No. But, before you turn to a pill to artificially crank up your sexual appetite, why not be honest about what is bugging you?
Watch out men, here it comes!
Do you really believe that a video game obsessed, chubby, lazy, belching, farting, man-child should arouse you?
Do you seriously want to artificially jack up your desire for that unemployed couch potato?
How about the workaholic who ignores his children and won't mow the lawn but still expects his nightly privilege? Is this the guy you want to lust after by popping a pill?
Care to give yourself to the guy who sides with his mother over you?
How about the guy who cheated on you and hides his porn addiction?
Finally, perhaps you want to make yourself completely vulnerable to that emotionally unavailable man who won't listen to your heart, but feels entitled to your body.
This is the stuff missing from the medical community, who wants to take ownership of your mental health.
There is a reason for your lack of desire, most likely, that goes beyond a physical explanation. Before you mess with your libido, delve into your psyche. Explore the reasons for what may be happening in your mind and body.
We are barely scratching the surface here for what may be behind a lack of sexual desire, but in the end, it is usually something quite simple. The tough part is getting past the denial and calling a spade a spade.
Give him a reality check
One particularly healthy woman dealt with her lack of sexual desire by being honest. Her husband had let himself go a bit, gaining 40 pounds. The bigger he got, the less attracted she became.
As her libido waned, she struggled with whether or not it was fair to refuse her husband in bed just because she was repulsed by his body. After all, he was the breadwinner in the family.
At length, she decided not to betray her genuine sense of attraction and informed him that she couldn't have sex with him until he lost weight.
Extreme? I don't know. He lost the weight.
Of course, every case is different. The point is, if you have lost your sexual appetite, don't assume a pill is the healthiest way to get it back. Look for the deeper cause. Once it is resolved, sexual desire usually returns naturally.